Welcome to Bud’s Blog

Posted March 1, 2009 by oldereyes
Categories: feeling older

The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes – Marcel Proust

Sometimes Older Eyes work, too Bud


Necessary Definitions

Sage – a wise man; a man of gravity and wisdom; especially, a man venerable for years, and of sound judgment and prudence.

Curmudgeon – an ill-tempered old person full of stubborn ideas or opinions.

Fool – A person with poor judgment or little intelligence; a jester, a person whose role was to entertain a sovereign and the court, often with foolishness.

I’ve been wondering lately what it would be like to be able to relive my life knowing what I know now. Or if I was able to give my grown children a view of the world through my Older Eyes, would it change their lives? Here’s a provocative proposition: If I could get every twenty-year old to look at the world through sixty-four year old eyes for just a few minutes, it would either change them for the better or kill them. Provocative but probably not true. I doubt there are many young men making bucket lists as a result of watching Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman.

With a do-over unlikely and getting my children to listen to my archaic opinions only slightly less so, I’ll record the view through my Older Eyes here in Bud’s Blog.   As you read each post, you decide … Sage, Curmudgeon, or Fool … we can agree to disagree on which is which. Your comments are welcome, whatever your age.   If what you read changes you for the better, I’d especially like to know.   Hopefully there will be no casualties.   If you are new here and want a taste of my Older Perspective before diving in, The Best of Feeling Older offers a few of my favorite posts on aging.  Finally, if my work inspires you to try blogging … or even if you think, Jeez, I can do this better than Older Eyes – there are a series of posts on doing just that on my page, Starting a WordPress Blog.

Flying to Where?

Posted August 27, 2015 by oldereyes
Categories: family

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image For over ten years, whenever we needed a granchild fix, we got up at about seven in the morning, showered and dressed, had a little breakfast and loaded up the car.   We drove down Weir Canyon Road and took the 91 Freeway headed west.  By five or six in the evening, we would be rolling into Phoenix, either stopping to see the kids or headed to our own Little House in the Desert, making plans to see them the next morning.  So it was Tuesday, up at about seven in the morning, showered and dressed, a little breakfast and car loaded   But today Weir Canyon Road and the 91 Freeway led us to the Toll Roads south and to John Wayne Airport, where we boarded a Southwest flight. Flying to Where? you ask Nope, Not Phoenix. Salt Lake City. A rental car and an hour drive later we were pulling up in front of our daughter’s new home in Herriman, UT. Just in case we needed something to remind us that things had changed, our flight to Salt Lake required a plane change in Phoenix. Read the rest of this post »

Monday Smiles – 8/24/2015

Posted August 24, 2015 by oldereyes
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I don’t have time to go back and look because I’m packing my bags but I am willing to bet that at least 80% of my Monday Smiles posts concern what my wife, Muri, and I did for the weekend, often what we did for Date Night.  Yes, I’m 71 … and Muri, is not far behind … and we still go out on a date at least once a week.   I’d guess that only 10% of my Monday Smiles concerned my grandkids, Reed, Maddux, and Savy.  Our grandkids are the lights of out lives, but they lived in Arizona and even though we have a house there, commitments kept us from being there often to create more Monday Smiles.   For three long months, my grandkids smiles have been from memories, photos or voices on the phone because they have moved to Utah, near Salt Lake.  We have waited patiently while the family moved, while they looked for a house and endured delays in the closing date.  But tomorrow we will board a flight to Salt Lake to spend a week with the family.


That, friends and readers, is worth smiling about on this Monday.  And I am.


Posted August 23, 2015 by oldereyes
Categories: opinion

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seriousYou have probably heard by now that Southern California is in the midst of a severe drought.   How severe?   It depends who you listen to and the degree of hysteria they choose for their particular brand of reporting.   It has been going on for at least three years, while some sources see it as part of a 15 year mega-drought and others say it has been proceeding for decades.   California governor, Jerry “Moonbeam” Brown, never one to shy away from hyperbole for politics’s sake, has called it epochal.   This is for certain … reservoirs are historically low,Reservoirs Statewide In California At Record Low Levels some virtually empty.  The state has mandated a 20% reduction in water use, with individual counties and cities determining how to enforce the reduction.   In most places, hosing down driveways and patios or using a hose to wash a car can result in $500 fine.  Most cities have also instituted a twice a week watering rule that also limits how long you can water on each sprinkler station.   Here in Anaheim Hills, even numbered homes water on Thursday and Sunday and odd ones water on Wednesday and Saturday for a maximum of 8 minutes each station.  I have read that in Socal’s warm summer climate, lawns can not survive that level of watering. Read the rest of this post »


Posted August 20, 2015 by oldereyes
Categories: curmudgeonly rants

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habitsI have often told people that the most important thing in trying to remain happy while pushing on into one’s later years is acceptance of the changes that aging brings.   I know, I know … everyone says sixty is the new forty … and then, by deductive reasoning, seventy is the new fifty.   Let me tell you, the trip from fifty to seventy brings many changes.  Some are good.  Many are not.   And sometimes, happiness depends on more than simple acceptance. Read the rest of this post »

Monday Smiles – 8/17/2015

Posted August 17, 2015 by oldereyes
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image I woke early this morning, startled by a surrealistic dream in which I was on my way to a symphony performance that turned out to be in an eldercare facilty, the seniors tucked into their beds around the orchestra. Five am, my alarm clock read. My wife Muri, was in her usual sleeping position but I could tell from her breathing that she was awake, too. I don’t know how long we lay there, awake, each trying not to disturb the other but eventually we both fell back to sleep. When I awoke again at 9:30, Muri was already downstairs having breakfast. I made some coffee and read the news on my tablet before journalling a little bit. It is amazing how quickly the morning evaporates when it starts at 9:30. After a light lunch, I met a friend for coffee then came home to do some work. The work involves using a programming language known as MATLAB, something I enjoy enough that I’d consider doing it for free if it didn’t pay so well. I worked at the kitchen table until Muri served dinner, then we made a run to our local Trader Joe’s. Uneventful, a vanilla day. On the tail end of what was a fairly vanilla weekend. Yes, I am spoiled. Read the rest of this post »


Posted August 15, 2015 by oldereyes
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jazzLast Wednesday, I was driving to the office where I volunteer answering phones,  and as the IT guy and sometimes accountant.   I had Sirius XM tuned to Watercolors, the smooth jazz station.   A song by the Rippintons came on … I think it was Cote d’Azur  … and I found myself snapping my fingers to the beat.  It seems to me there is a special connection between jazz and finger snapping … or finger popping, as it is sometimes known.  I will tell you, when we went to see the O’Jays and Gladys Knight last Sunday, there was a lot of clapping and arm waving and dancing in place, but not much finger snapping.  Even if there was, it was lost in the wall of sound.  Jazz brings a cooler vibe than rock and roll which  finger snapping fits as a cooler, less demonstrative way to show that you are into the music without drowning it out.  Especially if you snap on the off-beat as taught by the one and only Duke Ellington.

Of course there are those who say finger snapping has nothing to do with cool, that it’s an alternative to clapping that doesn’t require putting down your beer.  I can live with that, too. Read the rest of this post »


Posted August 11, 2015 by oldereyes
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I met Muriel in my Junior year of college at the University of Connecticut.  She was dating my best friend.  That would have been 1965.  A while later, after she’d stopped dating him because he wasn’t Jewish (I’m fairly certain he didn’t know why), I asked her to a party at my fraternity and she accepted.  She thought my last name was Green, which could be Jewish.  It wasn’t … I was raised Catholic.  Our parents were not overjoyed … in varying degrees … with the prospect of an interfaith marriage.  Three years later, after several breakups to please the folks, we were married in a Connecticut synagogue.   It took some effort to find a Rabbi that would marry us.  That was forty-seven years ago today.

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