Hard Choices

This week the topic at our Thursday Night Men’s Group was Choices.  Sometimes, a topic really resonates with me and I know I need to share on it.  Other times … like Thursday night … it’s only after I hear what others have to say that I discover I have something to add.  But it’s a big meeting and sometimes our hour and a half runs out before I get a turn, so I either share my thoughts with someone  in the parking lot afterwards or drive home with them rattling around in my brain.  Thursday night’s parking lot conversation was a geek-fest about ancient computers and punched cards so my thoughts on Choices have been rattling for two days.  That usually means they end up in a post here on Bud’s Blog.

Thursday night, I heard about good choices, bad choices, stupid choices and oblivious choices.   I heard about choosing to be happy and I heard that including God in your choices makes them easier.   The latter touches on what I was thinking about … easy choices and hard choices.   It is truly wonderful when the good choices and the right choices are easy choices but it’s my experience that in this life, that’s sometimes not the case.  Have you ever chosen to be a caretaker for a parent, child or friend who’s ill or disabled?  No matter how much you love them, it can be a difficult job, a job that leaves you angry, sad or exhausted.   But Abe Lincoln is supposed to have said, People are just about as happy as they choose to be.   And AA members are fond of quoting the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous which says, We are sure God wants us to be happy, joyous and free.   Our ability to make choices gives us freedom, but how about choosing to be happy?  How can making the hard choice be choosing to be happy?   If you read the Big Book, I think you will discover that the founders of AA were talking about spiritual happiness and joy, the joy of trying to do the will of a Higher Power, which for them included carrying the message to others.   I suspect President Lincoln was talking about the same thing … the satisfaction of doing the right thing.   That can carry us during those times when the good choice and the right choice is the hard choice … and simply knowing it was our own choice makes it easier to live with the results.

That’s what I think.   How about you?

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6 Comments on “Hard Choices”


  1. Personally, I have found the HARDER and more DIFFICULT choices in my life have led me to a happier more peaceful place than the easy choices.

  2. oldereyes Says:

    Yeah, sometimes I hate that it’s true but I agree.

  3. undividing Says:

    Your post was good for me to read tonight – I needed to hear that it’s within my power to choose to be happy. With so many things in my life not going the way I want them to, it’s easy to blame outer circumstances for my mood. Regardless of what’s happening to me, I get to choose how to respond to it. I don’t know if I like that, too much responsibility!

    • oldereyes Says:

      Well, I agree. i don’t always like being responsible for my own happiness. I’d REALLY like it to be someones else’s job. But, alas, it’s not and I’m better off knowing it.


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