Last week, Muri and I traveled to Florida to spend the week on Siesta Key with our good friends, Britta and Barney. Let me say at this point that Britta has no use for social media, not even high class literary social media like Older Eyes- Bud’s Blog. Hence, in the interest of preserving a very long friendship, Britta is a pseudonym, as is Barney. They had rented a small cottage near the beach and invited us to join them and their two dogs, Keppah and Kishka. Also pseudonyms. Kishka isn’t fond of social media either. Because Britta and Barney live on the East Coast (in an undisclosed location), we see them only occasionally. (more…)
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Since you ask so nicely, Diana, Older Eyes and his wife, Muri, are going to our favorite Mexican Restaurant for dinner then to our local theater to see Star Wars – The Force Awakens. We will be home in time to watch the ball come down in Times Square … via tape delay, of course. What, you expected extravagant dining and all night partying at my age? No thank you. But we weren’t always early to bedders. (more…)
There are always smiles. This life would be intolerable if that were not true. My wife, Muri, and I have difficult decisions … and more significantly, difficult actions … ahead of us. They are our choices, our decisions, but we are not alone. We have friends who have offered to be by our side … and we have family who have endured similar difficulties, offering their love. Life is not always easy but friends and family bring smiles to even the darker days. Thank you for traveling this road with us. It’s Monday … I’m smiling.
My family moved from a tenement apartment on The Boulevard in New Haven to a brand new ranch style house in the suburbs of East Haven, Connecticut during the summer before I started fourth grade. I would live there until I graduated from college and when someone asks, Where are you from? it’s that house I think of. Like most kids, I quickly made new friends and more or less forgot about the kids from the apartments. My parents, too, made new friends in the neighborhood. But several times a year, when they told us they were going out with The Neighbors, it wasn’t the people from the new neighborhood, it was their old friends from The Boulevard. This went on until my Mom passed away at 68, and after that my Dad would still reconnect with a few of The Neighbors. Occasionally we’d get dragged along to reunion picnics where we tried to act like we were still friends with kids we hadn’t seen in years. I never quite understood their attachment to the old neighbors when they had perfectly good new ones. (more…)
During the person’s lifetime, we get lost in the details. But when death strikes, we have the chance to study the kaleidoscope, the bigger picture, with utmost clarity. And at that point, we discover – a bit too late – the beautiful life led by the deceased – Levi Avtzon
When my friend Stan was in the hospital with pneumonia and began to realize he might not recover, he called me close and asked if I would deliver his eulogy. It was a difficult request to hear but it was also an honor. I was Stan’s sponsor and as such, I knew him better than most. In the too short six years I’d known him, we’d come to trust each other completely … something rare under any circumstances but especially so for two men in their sixties. Yesterday, under the shade of a sycamore tree in the park, I got to keep my promise to Stan in front of a small group of his family and friends. (more…)
When Mark Zuckerberg chose the name Friend to describe someone who I allow to view what I post on Facebook in return for viewing theirs, it was both brilliant and cynical. It was brilliant because it taps into a fundamental human need for friends. And it was cynical because never before had the title of Friend been given for so little commitment, at least by humans over the age of 10. I’ve noticed kids under 10 tend to call everyone they know a Friend. It takes time to develop gradations of relationship like acquaintance, colleague, friend, good friend and best friend … not to mention the gradations of enemy. Time, I’ve had, enough time to understand that true friendship is more than a matter of years and similar interests. Friends are honest and open, willing to show me who they are and to know me, not just on my good days but on my worst. They accept who I am but don’t, as they say, cosign my bullshit … they are willing to say, Bud, what are you doing? And I’m willing to do the same for them. We have similarities, but we also have differences. Similarities are easy … differences, we either discuss peacefully or avoid. Either works. We may be separated periodically by disagreements or events in our lives but we always come together again, and most times, no matter how long we’ve been separated, we can talk as if we’ve never been apart. (more…)