Welcome to Bud’s Blog

Posted March 1, 2009 by oldereyes
Categories: feeling older

The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes - Marcel Proust

Sometimes Older Eyes work, too - Bud


Necessary Definitions

Sage – a wise man; a man of gravity and wisdom; especially, a man venerable for years, and of sound judgment and prudence.

Curmudgeon – an ill-tempered old person full of stubborn ideas or opinions.

Fool – A person with poor judgment or little intelligence; a jester, a person whose role was to entertain a sovereign and the court, often with foolishness.

I’ve been wondering lately what it would be like to be able to relive my life knowing what I know now. Or if I was able to give my grown children a view of the world through my Older Eyes, would it change their lives? Here’s a provocative proposition: If I could get every twenty-year old to look at the world through sixty-four year old eyes for just a few minutes, it would either change them for the better or kill them. Provocative but probably not true. I doubt there are many young men making bucket lists as a result of watching Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman.

With a do-over unlikely and getting my children to listen to my archaic opinions only slightly less so, I’ll record the view through my Older Eyes here in Bud’s Blog.   As you read each post, you decide … Sage, Curmudgeon, or Fool … we can agree to disagree on which is which. Your comments are welcome, whatever your age.   If what you read changes you for the better, I’d especially like to know.   Hopefully there will be no casualties.   If you are new here and want a taste of my Older Perspective before diving in, The Best of Feeling Older offers a few of my favorite posts on aging.  Finally, if my work inspires you to try blogging … or even if you think, Jeez, I can do this better than Older Eyes – there are a series of posts on doing just that on my page, Starting a WordPress Blog.

Thanksgiving 2014

Posted November 27, 2014 by oldereyes
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savyThanksAs usual in these older years of my life, we are in Arizona for Thanksgiving to spend it with my daughter’s family.  Today, we went to my grandkids’ school to help out a Savannah’s Thanksgiving Day Feast.  Being able to attend events at our grandchildren’s school is one of the blessings of having a second home near them in Arizona.  Since my wife, Muri, and I were transplants from Connecticut, it was something our kids never got to experience.  Today, Savy’s teacher read the traditional story of the first Thanksgiving in which the grateful pilgrims invited the local Indians to a feast as a way of thanking them for their help in learning to live in the in wilds of 17th century New England.  The kids made Thanksgiving bracelets with colored beads to signify parts of the story and turkeys out of cupcakes, cookies and candy corn.
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Monday Smiles – 11/24/2014

Posted November 24, 2014 by oldereyes
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route 10When this posts tomorrow, my wife Muri and I will be on the 91 Freeway, East bound.   We will pick up the 60 Freeway outside of Riverside and after a pleasant drive through the foothills of the San Jacinto Mountains, we will pick up Interstate 10 and stay on it FOREVER.  Well, actually, we will stay on it for about six hours.  We will pass through Palm Springs and the incredibly odd sight of the windmills spinning in the prevailing desert winds.  As civilization slips away, we’ll head through the desert to the California border town of Blythe and the Arizona border town of Quartzsite, two townsMFN we’d likely never visit if we didn’t need  lunch or gas.  OK, Quartzsite has a pretty cool rock and mineral shop.   From Quartzsite, we venture off into what I like to call the MFN, the Middle of Freakin’ Nowhere for about three hours until the suburbs of Phoenix come into sight.  And from there it’s about an hour and a half to Our Little House in the Desert in San Tan Valley.  We are home in our home away from home. Read the rest of this post »

What Was I Going to Write?

Posted November 22, 2014 by oldereyes
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image Like most people my age, I find myself among older people a lot. It’s not so much a conscious choice as common interests. The movies we choose often attract an older audience and live theater would not survive without its senior audience. The park, particularly during the week is the habitat of the retired and semi-retired. And except for talking with my daughter and my son, I mostly communicate with people within shouting distance of my age. Even the men in my Men’s groups are aging with me (although, damn it, I seem to be staying ahead of most of them). There are those who tell me they like to be around younger people to keep them young. For me, that is one of the reasons God put my grandchildren on this earth … I don’t need to be young, I need to be childlike. I like being around seniors. They … at least the ones I choose to talk to … tend to be more honest, more comfortable in their own skin, more compassionate, and yes, a lot less noisy than all those younger adults out there. But the other side of the coin … there is always another side of the coin in this life … is that I get to see the effects of aging all around me. The forty-year old in my head can’t kid himself.
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Posted November 18, 2014 by oldereyes
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candle3Seventy years of life … and twenty-one years working the 12 Steps … have helped to accept life on life’s terms.  For me, those terms have been mostly good, occasionally punctuated by sadness and, even less often, by  tragedy.  This week, my kid sister, nine years my junior, was diagnosed with early onset dementia.  When I shared about it at my meeting Tuesday night, I suggested dire consequences for anyone who told me, Things happen for the best, and I was only half joking.  I don’t see how anything can be best in this.  Can there be some cosmic reason why my sister may have to spend the rest of her life in nusring care?  Sure but that is, as they say, way above my pay grade.  I could have offered a similar warning for It’s all part of God’s Plan.  Am I supposed to be relieved by the notion of a God that would do this to my sister?  My mother used to say that, People who have disabilities in life have a special place in Heaven.  Is it so special that they look back and say, My suffering was worth it?  Could be but hard to imagine.  I can Let Go and Let God, but for me, that is simply a statement of acceptance, not of understanding.  Trying to understand was always my ticket off of the Spiritual Express and away from a faith in a Higher Power.  These days, I simply accept that things like my sister’s illness are Inexplicable, at least to human sensibilities.  As the old Zen saying goes, If I understand, things are just as they are.  If I don’t understand, things are just as they are.  And life goes on.

Monday Smiles – 11/17/2014

Posted November 17, 2014 by oldereyes
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image Monday.  Smiles.  What a concept.  I am sitting in the park, blogging on my tablet connected to the internet via a small white mobile hotspot that costs a few dollars a month.  I’ve done the several things that cumulatively I like to call my Morning Practice and now I’m engaging in my avocation, writing, even though my company just brought in the largest contract we’ve ever had.   Financial security, flexibility and freedom are an uncommon Three F’s in this rat race world.  When I’m done posting, I will email a friend and maybe see if another is free for coffee and do an interesting task on that new job.   Yesterday, Muri and I went Christmas shopping for our three beautiful grandkids, always a treat, and next week, we will drive the almost 400 miles to share Thanksgiving week with them in our own Little House in the Desert.   There’s a crisp autumn breeze blowing through through my car and the lake in front of me is full of mallards, coots and fat Canada geese.  Walkers stroll … or stride … by in ones and twos, about seventy percent of them walking … or being walked by … two or three pooches.  I am a cat person, but even though I’m sometimes jealous of how dog people get to take their pets along, it’s fun to watch how much they enjoy them.  And when I get home, Mr. P will be waiting for me, meowing his Siamese head off.  I am a very lucky man. Read the rest of this post »

Off to Work

Posted November 14, 2014 by oldereyes
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off to workI wonder how many people actually noticed that I haven’t posted since Monday.  There was a time when I had a regular cadre of readers and regularly read ten or so other blogs and my absence would have been noticed.  But I’ve been a solo writer and only a very occasional reader for quite a while.  It’s interesting.  The views on my blog per day are about the same as they were in my most active days and I have more followers than ever.   Comments?  Virtually zero except a few I receive by email.  But I still love to write, so posts keep popping up when I have the time or the inclination. Read the rest of this post »

Veterans Day

Posted November 11, 2014 by oldereyes
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