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Posted March 1, 2009 by oldereyes
Categories: feeling older

The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes - Marcel Proust

Sometimes Older Eyes work, too - Bud


Necessary Definitions

Sage – a wise man; a man of gravity and wisdom; especially, a man venerable for years, and of sound judgment and prudence.

Curmudgeon – an ill-tempered old person full of stubborn ideas or opinions.

Fool – A person with poor judgment or little intelligence; a jester, a person whose role was to entertain a sovereign and the court, often with foolishness.

I’ve been wondering lately what it would be like to be able to relive my life knowing what I know now. Or if I was able to give my grown children a view of the world through my Older Eyes, would it change their lives? Here’s a provocative proposition: If I could get every twenty-year old to look at the world through sixty-four year old eyes for just a few minutes, it would either change them for the better or kill them. Provocative but probably not true. I doubt there are many young men making bucket lists as a result of watching Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman.

With a do-over unlikely and getting my children to listen to my archaic opinions only slightly less so, I’ll record the view through my Older Eyes here in Bud’s Blog.   As you read each post, you decide … Sage, Curmudgeon, or Fool … we can agree to disagree on which is which. Your comments are welcome, whatever your age.   If what you read changes you for the better, I’d especially like to know.   Hopefully there will be no casualties.   If you are new here and want a taste of my Older Perspective before diving in, The Best of Feeling Older offers a few of my favorite posts on aging.  Finally, if my work inspires you to try blogging … or even if you think, Jeez, I can do this better than Older Eyes – there are a series of posts on doing just that on my page, Starting a WordPress Blog.

Not About the Game

Posted September 18, 2014 by oldereyes
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not FBI am a sports fan and I probably will be until the day I die but there are times I wonder why.  Sometimes, I wonder why I care about whether spoiled soon-to-be-millionaire college athletes win or lose just because they wear the name of the university where I got my graduate degree on their shirts.   I watch unsportsmanlike behavior on the field and unseemly behavior off the field by young men who have been treated like stars since junior high.   I see boorish behavior in the stands by fans and over-the-top taunting of opponents on internet message boards and sports websites. I listen to sports talk bozos who sound like overgrown adolescents with opinions to match.  I wonder, Do I really want to be associated with these people?  I get to see men who are making millions for playing a freaking game sound and act like hoodlums on and off the field and wonder, Why do we deify these people? Read the rest of this post »

Monday Smiles – 9/15/2014

Posted September 15, 2014 by oldereyes
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carry-onMy wife, Muri, and I are not travelers.   That doesn’t mean we never travel, it just means we get uncomfortable when we are away from home from more than a week, especially when we are far from home.  After years of business travel, I’ve adapted to the rigors of flying … I actually enjoy it once I’m on the plane … but I hate airports.  Damn tourists, you know?  Muri can be slightly claustrophobic and endures flying.  Neither of us have ever flown for longer than 10 hours.   This weekend we will be airborne for a total of 15 hours by the time we make it to Rome.  Rome.  I am never comfortable in a place where I don’t speak the language in spite of a cool little app I found, SpeakEasy Italian, that teaches useful Italian phrases.   This old brain doesn’t absorb languages very well.  We will be gone for 12 days, which is 5 days outside our comfort zone.   The topper: I have a report due to our biggest customer this week.  Needless to say, it’s a bit crazy around here. Read the rest of this post »

Letting Go

Posted September 14, 2014 by oldereyes
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About a month after starting Older Eyes – Bud’s Blog, I posted Very Short Story:

It had been a long week.     People told him to Let Go and Let God until he thought he’d scream. Alone in the park at last, he asked aloud (but not screaming – how would that look?), Let go and let God what?  To his surprise, God answered.  o just what I was going to do anyway.  Isn’t that enough?

In the five years since Very Short Story, I’ve found a degree of spiritual peace that I never thought possible but still, no 12-Step slogan sets my mind to wondering more than Let Go and Let God.  In addition to wondering what I was letting God do, I’ve worried about what I was supposed to do once I Let God.   I am a man of action, after all.   I found an old Middle Eastern saying that matches my instincts perfectly: Trust God but tie your camel to a tree.  Yes, sometimes when we take our hands off a situation, it works itself out.  But other times, we still have to do our part, make decisions and carry through on them … or, finding they were faulty, make new ones.

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Friday Favorites – 9/12/2014

Posted September 12, 2014 by oldereyes
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friday1It is almost 3:00 pm in the afternoon.   On Friday.   And once again, I’m having trouble coming up with a Friday Favorite.   Oh, I’ve come up with a few ideas but upon searching the Older Eyes – Bud’s Blog archives, they’ve been done before.  After almost four years … 201 posts … I think this well is dry.   It’s not that there aren’t things I like enough to post about, I just don’t like them enough to call them a Favorite.  So, I’m making an executive … maybe an executive editor … decision.  This will be the last Friday Favorite, leaving only one theme day on Bud’s Blog, that being Monday Smiles.  It’s one thing to run out of favorites … running out of smiles would be a sad day indeed.  So this will be a Friday Favorites retrospective. Read the rest of this post »


Posted September 11, 2014 by oldereyes
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image There are certain images, whether seen in person or on TV, whether live or after the fact on the news, that burn themselves into our consciousness making it uneccessary to ever look at a photograph of the event again.  It’s as if our consiousness knows that that these events should never be forgotten but that left to our own devices, we’d never look at the images again so it puts them in a special place that comes to mind whenever the event is mentioned.  In seventy years, I’ve collected a small album of these images.   All I have to do is close my eyes and I can see the mushroom cloud over Hiroshima and the emaciated souls standing along the fences in the concentration camps.   I can see Jackie Kennedy scrambling across the back of the limo to come to the aid of her husband.  I can see the motel where Martin Luther King was assasinated and I can see the Challenger exploding like an oversized firework, the spectators’ expressions hovering between disbelief and horror.  Yes, and I can see the World Trade Center towers coming down.  For me, though, the quintessential image of September 11, 2001 was the sight of Palestinians dancing for joy in the street at the news.  That image changed me.
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Eye’s a Romantic

Posted September 10, 2014 by oldereyes
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A week ago, I posted about the issues I was having with my vision, a large number of very small gray spots drifting around in my field of view like Gray Snow.  Fortunately, my optometrist was available to do a retinal exam and reassure me that they were either floaters or products of an ocular migraine.  When I saw my regular doctor for a checkup on Thursday, he recommended I see an opthamologist and sent in a referral (since my Medicare supplement is an HMO).  On Tuesday afternoon, saw my new ophthalmologist who is about my daughter’s age and just as cute (don’t tell my daughter I said that).   During the very thorough exam, she suddenly asked, Are you a romantic?   It seemed like an odd question from an eye doctor.  I guess I am, I said.  Why?   The blood vessels form perfect heart in the center of your right retina just like a Valentine, she answered, sounding just a little excited.  I’ve heard of this but I’ve never seen it before.

So when the examination was over, she put the retinal photos on the computer screen and there it was:

retina heart

And even better, my retina has no problems.  Which makes me one happy old romantic.

Monday Smiles – 9/8/2014

Posted September 8, 2014 by oldereyes
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solanaSometimes, there is absolutely nothing like a day or two away.   It’s not that we don’t love our home … or that there is anything particularly odious to get away from.   Our life is good.   But home is home and there are always chores whispering in the hallways, asking to be done.  And others calling from the yard.   When you are self-employed … at home … work is always just down the hall, too, singing its siren’s song … Bill some hours, bill some hours.  So Saturday, we headed south on the 5 Freeway, along the Pacific coast to the little town of Solana Beach, where one of our oldest friends, Jackie, lives.  If you need proof that Jackie is a dear friend, all you need to know is that we left during the first quarter of the USC-Stanford Football game.  Fortunately, when we arrived at Jackie’s house, I got to watch most of the second half and even more fortunately, the Trojans won the game, 13-10.   I hate to admit this, but I’m a lot more fun to be around when USC wins. Read the rest of this post »


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