Welcome to Bud’s Blog

Posted March 1, 2009 by oldereyes
Categories: feeling older

The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes - Marcel Proust

Sometimes Older Eyes work, too - Bud


Necessary Definitions

Sage – a wise man; a man of gravity and wisdom; especially, a man venerable for years, and of sound judgment and prudence.

Curmudgeon – an ill-tempered old person full of stubborn ideas or opinions.

Fool – A person with poor judgment or little intelligence; a jester, a person whose role was to entertain a sovereign and the court, often with foolishness.

I’ve been wondering lately what it would be like to be able to relive my life knowing what I know now. Or if I was able to give my grown children a view of the world through my Older Eyes, would it change their lives? Here’s a provocative proposition: If I could get every twenty-year old to look at the world through sixty-four year old eyes for just a few minutes, it would either change them for the better or kill them. Provocative but probably not true. I doubt there are many young men making bucket lists as a result of watching Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman.

With a do-over unlikely and getting my children to listen to my archaic opinions only slightly less so, I’ll record the view through my Older Eyes here in Bud’s Blog.   As you read each post, you decide … Sage, Curmudgeon, or Fool … we can agree to disagree on which is which. Your comments are welcome, whatever your age.   If what you read changes you for the better, I’d especially like to know.   Hopefully there will be no casualties.   If you are new here and want a taste of my Older Perspective before diving in, The Best of Feeling Older offers a few of my favorite posts on aging.  Finally, if my work inspires you to try blogging … or even if you think, Jeez, I can do this better than Older Eyes – there are a series of posts on doing just that on my page, Starting a WordPress Blog.

Finding Gratitude

Posted July 27, 2014 by oldereyes
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bubblesHer nickname was Bubbles.   She turned up in my regular 12-Step meeting, back when I attended mixed meetings (meeting with both men and women in attendance).   She wore bright pink or sunshine yellow hats with matching blazers adorned with pins featuring 12-Step sayings.   She had an infectious laugh and the ability to tell her story in a way that had you laughing uncontrollably one minute and teary-eyed thepity party next.   She could be a bit of a hard-liner and sometimes her idea of what constituted the Twelve Step Way of Life differed markedly from mine.   One of the things that happens when you choose to sit in 12-Step meetings is that you get to listen to … and talk with … people that you would avoid elsewhere.   Eccentric older women in bizarre outfits were definitely on my keep-away list.   And yet, I learned a great deal from Bubbles and we became friends of a sort.   Although I’d probably have said Don’t judge a book by it’s cover for most of my life, it was through 12-Step meetings that I discovered I could learn from virtually anyone.  That has changed my life.
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Friday Favorites 7/25/2014

Posted July 25, 2014 by oldereyes
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roy and kdI try to be scrupulously honest here on Bud’s Blog … except, of course, for those times where my tongue is firmly in cheek or my Inner Curmudgeon has taken control of the keyboard.  So I have to admit that when I decided to post my favorite duet, I knew exactly where I was headed.   That’s probably a bit surprising since I’ve been listening to pop music for close to sixty years during which I suspect hundreds … if not thousands … of duets have made it to the charts.  And thousands more have appeared on duets album by artists like Frank Sinatra and Kenny G that featured an assortment of vocal stars singing with the top-billed artist.    There were duet groups like Sonny and Cher or Peaches and Herb, and one-time duet hits like Endless Love by Diana Ross and Lionel Ritchie or We’ve Got Tonight by Kenny Rogers and Kim Carnes.   One of the most famous duets, You Don’t Bring Me Flowers by Barbara Streisand and Neil Diamond was manufactured from solo performances by an enterprising program manager before it was released as a duet by 1978 … and performed live a the Grammy Awards Show in 1980.  Online there are dozens of greatest duets list:  there’s a Top Forty from Billboard Magazine (with Endless Love as number one) and a Top Fifty from the UK’s Telegraph. (with Lee Hazelwood’s and Nancy Sinatra’s Some Velvet Morning as the winner.  Those Brits.  Go figure.). Rolling Stone’s 20 Best Dramatic Duets of All Time selects Kenny Rogers’ and Dolly Parton’s Island in the Stream as number one. Read the rest of this post »

Talking to Machines

Posted July 23, 2014 by oldereyes
Categories: curmudgeonly rants

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robbyI would say that the odds of a call on our house phone being for me are about 30 to 1 … and that about half the calls are from telemarketers.   At least half the telemarketer calls are telemarketing for charities.   Then there are the customer service calls.  You know.  This is Joe Abegotz, President of Acura of Orange County.  I’m calling to thank you for you past business and ask you to rate our service at www.painintheass.com.  The boss expects us to get all tens so please answer honestly.   That’s why I love caller ID … I can screen my calls before answering.   On few occasions that I do answer, I try to be polite if the caller is human.  If the call is for a charity we support, I may even promise to make a contribution.  If someone is selling, say, solar panels, I wait until they take a breath and say, I’m really not interested.   They are trained to plunge ahead in the face of such adversity, and depending on my mood, I’ll give them one or two more No thank yous, then I hang up.  Politeness has its limits.   Then there are those calls where I find myself Talking to Machines.  Unlike the early computer generated voices which sounded as if you were talking to Robby the Robot, modern computer voices can sound like real people and they sometimes fool me.  I offer a How are you today? or an I’m not really interested only to be ignored.  Eventually, the voice asks a question and says, Please answer yes or no.  Speak clearly.  Yep.  I’m Talking to Machines. Read the rest of this post »

Monday Smiles – 7/21/2014

Posted July 21, 2014 by oldereyes
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music notesMusic!!!  Is there anything better?  What’s that?   How about family?  How about friends?  How about Date Night with the woman you love?  OK.  You got me (Don’t let it happen again).  Let me start over.   A musical weekend.  With a Saturday Date Night with the woman you love and … music!  And a Sunday evening out with friends for theater and dinner … and music !!!  What?  You can still think of better things?  Yeah, so can I.   But the official blogging bylaws say that hyperbole is acceptable as a means drawing a readers attention to a post.  Consider yourself drawn. Read the rest of this post »


Posted July 20, 2014 by oldereyes
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LOASomeone asked me last week what I thought about the Law of Attraction.  In case you’ve been hiding under a (large) rock, the Law of Attraction is the notion that the universe manifests in your life whatever you think.  OK, that’s my definition.  Positive thinking guru Louise Hay puts it this way.  The law of attraction is that our thinking creates and brings to us whatever we think about.  It’s as though every time we think a thought, every time we speak a word, the universe is listening and responding to us.  An article titled How to Use the Law of Attraction on wikihow.com gives seven steps to manifest what you want in your life.  The steps include meditation, knowing precisely what you want, asking the universe for what you want, visualizing and writing about what you want as if you already have it, showing gratitude for what you already have and trusting the universe.  If you’ve been coming around here for a while, you know that I’ve written about each of these, although I usually speak of a Higher Power or God instead of the universe.   Then there’s the kicker: Let the Universe do it for you. When you take the Universe’s job of worrying about the “how”, this says you’re lacking faith and that you’re telling the Universe what to do when the Universe has far greater knowledge and power than human mankind. Read the rest of this post »

Friday Favorites 7/18/2014

Posted July 18, 2014 by oldereyes
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wpid-100_0876.jpgOne of my favorite posts here on Older Eyes – Bud’s Blog is The Grandfather Gene, in which I describe how my apathy about having grandchildren turned to love at first sight the day I held my first grandson, Reed, in my arms nine years ago.  The arrival of a second grandson, Maddux, a little more than a year later only made me more of a doting grandfather … or Papa, as my grandkids call me.   Believe me, I never thought I’d like being called anything that made me sound so ancient but from their lips, it’s music to my ears.   When Maddux was born, we thought he would be the last grandchild.  My daughter’s pregnancies were incredibly difficult … she was sick almost continually and needed a PICC line to prevent dehydration.   Then we received an unexpected call that she was pregnant again.  In spite of how much we enjoyed our grandsons, we had mixed feelings.  We weren’t anxious to watch Amy suffer through another pregnancy and they seemed to have their hands full with two kids.   We managed to soud excited and, of course, as Amy’s tummy swelled, the excitement became more genuine.   Then came the news that it was to be a girl. The excitement was 24-carat genuine. Read the rest of this post »

Snakes in a Drain

Posted July 15, 2014 by oldereyes
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SNAKESWhen we left off yesterday in Monday Smiles, Older Eyes and a determined band of family and friends (actually, my wife Muri with our friends Ron and Kerry) had fended off a flood in the guest bathroom, only to learn from the plumber that there was a bad root infestation in our sewer drain.  Smiles on Monday were somewhat forced because the preliminary estimate to dig up and replace the pipe (which runs under the concrete driveway) was $10,000.   After a morning of reading about alternatives, including chemicals to kill roots (somewhat effective but environmentally irresponsible), in-place relining of pipes (expensive but less damage to landscaping), and pipe-bursting (ditto), we decided to have the pipe videoed to find out what was really going on in there.  As you probably know, a video camera with a fiber-optic cable is lowered into the pipe through an access point and you get to see the inside of the pipe on a little TV screen.  And there, forty-five feet away from the house was the drain obstruction. Read the rest of this post »


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