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Posted March 1, 2009 by oldereyes
Categories: feeling older

The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes - Marcel Proust

Sometimes Older Eyes work, too - Bud


Necessary Definitions

Sage – a wise man; a man of gravity and wisdom; especially, a man venerable for years, and of sound judgment and prudence.

Curmudgeon – an ill-tempered old person full of stubborn ideas or opinions.

Fool – A person with poor judgment or little intelligence; a jester, a person whose role was to entertain a sovereign and the court, often with foolishness.

I’ve been wondering lately what it would be like to be able to relive my life knowing what I know now. Or if I was able to give my grown children a view of the world through my Older Eyes, would it change their lives? Here’s a provocative proposition: If I could get every twenty-year old to look at the world through sixty-four year old eyes for just a few minutes, it would either change them for the better or kill them. Provocative but probably not true. I doubt there are many young men making bucket lists as a result of watching Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman.

With a do-over unlikely and getting my children to listen to my archaic opinions only slightly less so, I’ll record the view through my Older Eyes here in Bud’s Blog.   As you read each post, you decide … Sage, Curmudgeon, or Fool … we can agree to disagree on which is which. Your comments are welcome, whatever your age.   If what you read changes you for the better, I’d especially like to know.   Hopefully there will be no casualties.   If you are new here and want a taste of my Older Perspective before diving in, The Best of Feeling Older offers a few of my favorite posts on aging.  Finally, if my work inspires you to try blogging … or even if you think, Jeez, I can do this better than Older Eyes – there are a series of posts on doing just that on my page, Starting a WordPress Blog.

Easter in The Park

Posted April 20, 2014 by oldereyes
Categories: curmudgeonly rants

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easter parkEaster weekend is my least favorite park weekend.   It gets so busy on Sunday that the rangers usually end up closing the gate to further traffic.  People keep coming, though, by dropping off their stuff and families roadside, then parking in the surrounding neighborhoods, which makes me wonder where the neighbors’ Easter company parks.  It’s so busy on Sunday that many families have their picnics on Saturday.   Even though it says Yorba Regional County Park on the sign at the entrance, I tend to regard it as My Park.  I get annoyed when it is crowded and noisy, and REALLY annoyed when people make a mess of it.   The day after Easter, the park is littered with Easter debris, cellophane basket-grass, candy wrappers, and plastic eggs.  I usually don’t go the day after Easter.  But I hadn’t been to My Park all week, so I braved it yesterday. Read the rest of this post »

Dinner and a Movie (?)

Posted April 19, 2014 by oldereyes
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dinner and a movieI haven’t talked about Date Night here on Older Eyes – Bud’s Blog in a long time.  In case you’re a long time reader and wonder if we’ve given it up, we haven’t.  In case you’re a new reader and wonder what the heck I’m talking about, my wife Muri and I have, for 46 years of marriage, always made Saturday night Date night.  Oh, yeah, we may skip one if there’s something going on (like last week’s Men’s Retreat) but we usually schedule a Make-Up Date.  And sometimes, we’ll do our Saturday Date on Friday or Sunday if there’s a play we want to see and that’s when tickets are available.  Our dates aren’t always grand … a casual dinner at a local restaurant and a movie is our  … Dinner and a Movie …Default Date. That didn’t always work … I used to be a pain in the neck about movies, which annoyed Muri, but now I try to leave that to my Inner Curmudgeon and keep his opinions to myself. Read the rest of this post »

Friday Favorites 4/18/2014

Posted April 18, 2014 by oldereyes
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bradley stThis will be a do it yourself Friday Favorites.  No, you won’t have to bring your own Favorites, you’ll just have to choose from the Favorite things hiding in this nostalgic ramble.    My family moved to East Haven, Connecticut the summer before I started fourth grade, which would make it 1952, I believe.  My Dad worked two jobs to purchase a modest ranch style house on Bradley Street.  Behind the house was an unused hayfield and beyond that, The Woods, as in, Mom, we’re going to go play in The Woods.  In my memories it seems like there were miles of woods but I know from personal experience how the scale of things changes when you go back as an adult.  In my running days, I was visiting my Dad and Mom (yes, in that same house) and decided to take a run to downtown East Haven.   It had seemed like a long way on my bike at ten but I hadn’t even broken a sweat when I ran there in my forties.  The point being, when I went to Google Earth to see how far The Woods extended … it was under a mile. Read the rest of this post »

Learning Online

Posted April 17, 2014 by oldereyes
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easyI’ve spent the last two days taking online courses required by the government if we are to continue working in our field.  One has to do with how to use a government website with dozens of screens and functions.  That online class was a mind-numbing walk through each of the screens describing every detail and every regulation regarding what I can and can’t do on each screen.  It was followed by an equally mind-numbing exam that asked pertinent questions like, How many sections are there on Screen A? and Which of the following items cannot be done on Screen B? (so that None of the Above becomes a confusing double negative).   It took me two tries to pass the exam.  The second course used games like Jeopardy and Millionaire to make the learning more interesting but ended up seeming patronizing.   I passed the second course in one try, so patronizing must be better than mind-numbing. Read the rest of this post »


Posted April 16, 2014 by oldereyes
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red flower Read the rest of this post »

Mom’s Moon

Posted April 15, 2014 by oldereyes
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I have a busy day ahead of me.  I have on online course to complete so that I can register for a government website essential to a job that we are hopeful will come in soon, a job that will certainly unretire me … but will also keep us away from our IRAs for a few years.  I knew that last night as I relaxed watching The Dark Knight Rises at ten pm.  So, what time did I go to bed?   Two am.  I’d like to say I have no one to blame but myself if I’m tired today … I’d like to say that but I won’t.   I am officially blaming Mom.  She not only taught me to be what she called a dirty stay-up … we had the most fascinating conversations over the Tonight Show, occasionally pissing off my Dad, who had to go to work first thing in the morning.   She also taught me that celestial events like meteor showers and eclipses were worth staying up for (or even getting up for if they were at what she would have called some ungodly hour).  On more than one occasion she woke me in the middle of the night to sit in the back yard to catch the peak of some meteor shower.  So, there I was last night, up until 2 am watching the lunar eclipse.  Thanks a lot, Mom. Read the rest of this post »

Monday Smiles – 4/14/2014

Posted April 14, 2014 by oldereyes
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mission SBAnother Men’s Retreat is in the books.  Once again, I set off looking forward to the weekend but vaguely wondering in my skeptical heart-of-hearts if this is the year it’s just same-old-same-old.  The year I don’t write the dates for the next retreat in my calendar.  That feeling hangs around, whispering in my left ear, through a noisy dinner at which I feel a bit outside of every conversation … and through the first meeting at which I admit, out loud, that it takes about a meeting and a half for the retreat effect to kick in.  The place helps.  The mission is beautiful and the grounds abound with flowers of every color. Read the rest of this post »


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